Learning to Let Go...Not An Easy Thing

Learning to "let go" or "detach" from unhealthy relationships is one of the most difficult life lessons I had to learn in order to live my own "best life". Learning to "love from a distance" those who could not accept the new role I defined for myself required that I grieve both the past that never was and the future that could never be. Letting go of the fantasy and hope that if I could just "figure out" what to do to save the relationship, to make this person "understand"...was about as difficult as the realization that there was nothing I could do. It is one thing to forgive the past....it is another thing to not let the past repeat itself by trying to make an abusive relationship "work out".