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Learning to Let Go...Not An Easy Thing

Learning to "let go" or "detach" from unhealthy relationships is one of the most difficult life lessons I had to learn in order to live my own "best life". Learning to "love from a distance" those who could not accept the new role I defined for myself required that I grieve both the past that never was and the future that could never be. Letting go of the fantasy and hope that if I could just "figure out" what to do to save the relationship, to make this person "understand"...was about as difficult as the realization that there was nothing I could do. It is one thing to forgive the past....it is another thing to not let the past repeat itself by trying to make an abusive relationship "work out".

What Would You Do?

"Forgiveness is not something we do for OTHERS. We do it for OURSELVES to get well and move on." I find it easier to forgive others than myself. I am my hardest critic. It is hard for me to believe how important it is to let things go and forgive myself and others. I feel so weighed down by the crap when I feel someone has done me wrong. I have learned it take more energy to be angry at ourselves or others than it takes to let it go. Leave it in the past and not bring it into the future. What are your thoughts?